Welp… It is officially 2016—time to start facing those resolutions and to start it off on the right foot!
But if you’re like me, at least for now, I’ve put the thought of resolutions aside, and decided that this year would be about maintenance.
I’m not saying I won’t strive to be better… I’m just saying that I’m pretty damn happy with my achievements last year, and I hope to keep those accomplishments coming, and keep pushing forward as I have been.
Happy New Year, once again, to you, yours, and everyone in between!!!
Dress, Zelie For She – out of stock
Blazer, Eloquii – different colours available here
Boots, SexyPlus – here
5 years ago, I probably would have laughed in your face if you told me that one day I’d be saying that my VBO (visible belly outline) is sexy. And like, not just an uncomfortable giggle… I mean, a full on, straight from the gut, you-must-be-off-your-rocker kind of laugh.
Who knew I would ever be able to utter the words “I love my belly” without resentful sarcasm!? I certainly never would have believed it — but here I am, looking at my soft, protruding, B-belly, like, “dammmmn!!!” *wink/weirdly opened mouth/awkward head nod*
I’m not about to shout from the rooftops that I’ll never wear shapewear again, because I do still love the look and feel of a tight, somewhat smooth bod under my clothes sometimes, and there’s nothing wrong with that…
But, I will say this: I am never going to be uncomfortable displaying my belly when and how I please, because I don’t need to hide it to feel sexy!!! It’s soft, round, and jiggles when I walk, but so do my boobs and my butt, and I love those! So it’s time to embrace the final curve!!!
These amazing, faux leather trimmed leggings and black mesh top from SexyPlus are so gorgeous!!! They’re the perfect pieces for a night out dancing, or for casually layering, as I’ve done under this beautiful kimono from Zelie For She.
Paired with some simple grey flats, silver accessories, and a fabulous felt hat from Addition Elle this summer, the all black pieces underneath give amazing detail and texture to the whole look!
Mesh top, SexyPlus Clothing – here (on sale!!!)
Leggings, SexyPlus Clothing – similar
Duster, Zelie For She – similar
Hat, Addition Elle – here
Shoes, Walmart – similar
Dear woman who tried to shame my body today,
There are a few things I’d like to say to you — a few things that I think you need to know; and I will lace my words with an excessive amount of photos of my glorious bod in a hot pink, see-through dress and bright red bikini, because I think it would do you good to see more of the body you decided to pick apart on social media today.
As a blogger, in one of my weekly contributions to another blog, I was asking followers to help me pick between three outfits that I chose for an upcoming date night with my husband. I think I looked really cute in all of them, for the record — and, sometimes a girl just wants a little feedback!
I answered you so politely when you criticized body. I told you that “I love my belly, my big butt, and my cellulite, as does my hubby! They’re part of me — no need to hide them! 😊 It’s not about looking thinner. The beauty of body acceptance is learning to love our flaws! ❤️”
You’re welcome to disagree with my view points and clothing choices all you want, but never once did I mention anything about your thoughts on my outfits. I also didn’t get upset… In fact, I think I gave a pretty polite and friendly response that spoke only of how I wasn’t ashamed of my body parts that you seemed to feel weren’t attractive.
You, a plus size woman yourself, stated that you were entitled to your opinion, then proceeded to tell me that loving my body was a copout because I am too lazy to try to better myself and my health. (Really, you said it!)
When I, again very politely, explained that I am in very good health, and wished you would realize that your comment was judgemental and uncalled for, you said that I must not be as secure as I claim to be because I was being defensive and over-sensitive.
You went on to say that that you had balls, and stood by your opinion… And that I shouldn’t be a blogger if I didn’t like it — somehow believing that it is your right to police my body, call me names, be blatantly rude, and that, because I have a blog, I’m not supposed to call you on it.
Others jumped to my defence, but you attacked them too, and laughed at the whole situation, referring to a comment I had posted for someone else, explaining to them how taking back the word ‘fat’ had empowered me.
I politely excused myself from the conversation, stating that your perseverance was admirable, that you had so much potential, and I wished you could have used it to uplift your fellow women rather than tear them down.
Soon after, your comment was removed. Obviously nobody was in agreement with your insults disguised as opinions, and false sense of entitlement… So, my apologies if the events may seem a little out of sequence, because again, your comment was deleted, which took all of your, my, and everyone else’s carefully crafted rebuttals with it, leaving me with only my tear-filled (sarcasm, in case you didn’t pick up on that) memories to refer to. You are entitled to your opinion, let’s just get that out of the way so you don’t have to say it again, but I will not let you believe, when you attack my body and character then accuse me of being insecure when I respond, that I can’t see right through your smug facade, to a woman who is filled with self-doubt, insecurity, envy and fear.
I will also not allow you make me love myself any less than I did before reading your enlightening comments — in fact, they’ve made me love myself more! You see, when you show your true colours, and they’re dim, grey and muddy, they make mine shine much brighter.
What you thought would stop me really just propelled me forward, and reaffirmed how important my blogging truly is.
So what I’m really saying here, is thank you. Thank you for making me feel even more beautiful, secure, and important today.
I know your intention was to make yourself feel better by trying to bring me down, so I’m sorry (not sorry) that I couldn’t help, but I would gladly love to offer you a compliment if you ever decide to actually post a profile picture of yourself one day. I’m sure you have all kinds of beauty that you just don’t see when you look in the mirror.
And lastly, even though your attempts at hurting me failed miserably, I hope you come to understand that not everyone is as strong and confident as me. Not everyone will be able to take something wonderfully positive away from the experience of having a person try to publicly humiliate them; and not everyone will understand that your attempts at trashing their self-esteem, are really just projections of your own insecurities.
Bikini, Addition Elle – here
Today I’m going to talk about boobs. Yes. Boobs… Boobs and sun.
I was born and raised in Montreal – a city where for a good chunk of the year, the air is so cold it literally hurts your face…
We don’t have palm trees, there are no pineapple plants, and our beaches certainly don’t resemble the white sands & turquoise waves of the Caribbean; but for a few months each summer, we do have sun, and I think, from living in a climate of extremes, we know how to appreciate it better than most!
We swim, we camp, we fish, we bask… Not much keeps us inside in the summertime. After all, we’ve waited months to actually go out without freezing our arses off, right?
And while it isn’t officially summer just yet, the sun is definitely shining down on us, and its warm glow has gotten me feeling kind of frisky!
I know what you’re all thinking… When’s she gonna get to the boobs?
So instead of me getting to them, I’m bringing the boobs to you! Bam!!!
Now if you know me at all, you know that going braless (and often pantless) is far from being a rare occurrence for me, as long as I’m at home or able to throw a winter coat over it, but going visibly braless is public is not something I’m used to.
So when I wore this incredibly elegant and whimsical, sheer maxi dress from the new Zelie For She, Island Vibes collection, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and flaunt my braless titayyys, because boobs are amazing!!!
At first I felt shy. I felt that familiar wave of self-questioning panic wash over me… But after a few moments (and some encouraging words from my loving husband/photographer for the day) I told myself, fuck it! I don’t need to wear a bra to please anyone but myself, and ruining the gorgeous neckline of this dress will make me sad, so screw the bra (at least for today)! My tits are free!!!
Sure I got winked at by an old man on a bike with spectacular calves (which I’m not going to lie, was a bit of a confidence booster even if he was old enough to be my grandpa).
But, I felt sexy and alive – my breasts, which have fed my four babies, been pillows for my husband, are to me, symbols of my womanhood. They are truly miraculous entities (or should I say, en-titties), and are nothing to be ashamed of.
They’re no longer perky, they have stretch marks, and imperfections – but they’re mine, and they’re beautiful… And I will never let self-consciousness stop me from being a braless goddess again when I feel like it, especially under the warm sun!
Dress, Zelie For She – here
Shoes, Aldo – old, but love these
Parlez-vous français ?
Once again, it’s time for my contribution to the French Curves Challenge – an outfit photo challenge with the french touch, taking place each 16th of the month, and founded by the fabulous and inspirational, Vanoue of The Curvy and Curly Closet.
The theme this month!? Crop top!!! And don’t worry, I wouldn’t do all my Anglo readers like that! An English message will follow!
Le thème de mois: crop top !!!
J’ai porté mon premier crop top de ma vie adulte il y a un peux plus qu’un an. Sans mentir, c’était une idée intimidante pour moi.
J’ai mis quatre enfants au monde, un par césarienne. Mon ventre est recouverte de vergetures, et il est la partie de mon corps que j’ai eu le plus de mal à accepter depuis aussi longtemps que je peux me rappeler.
Mais ce jour là je me suis mis au défi, et j’ai tombé amoureuse de mon ventre, malgré ces défauts. Depuis ce jour je n’ai jamais regardé en arrière, et maintenant le crop top joue un rôle récurrent dans ma garde-robe.
Un de mes favoris est celui-là en rose pâle, de ZELIE FOR SHE. Je l’ai mis pour la première fois avec un tutu et un moto pour un look de princesse/motard, mais il s’est vraiment prouver comme une de les pièces les plus versatiles dans ma penderie.
Cette fois-ci, j’ai décidé de créer un look classique et sophistiqué, toujours en portant un crop top, mais d’une façon modeste, sans montrer beaucoup de peau, qui pourrait même marcher au bureau !
Je l’ai porté avec une formidable jupe fourreau en bleu marin et une veste orange construction d’ELOQUII.
J’ai accessoirisé avec des boucle d’oreille en argent, ma belle pochette Moti de Ted Baker, et les chaussures les plus magnifiques dans ma vie présentement – ces jolies pumps à talons carrés, paré de bijoux, en vert menthe, de ASOS.
Dans les années 90, quand montrer son ventre était la tendance, jamais dans un million d’années, j’allais croire qu’un jour je me retrouverais dans un crop top ! Ils me font sentir rebelle, coquine, super sexy, même quand je ne montre pas de peau, et ils m’ont poussé à embrasser la partie de mon corps que j’avais toujours détesté le plus. Ils m’ont aidé à montrer au monde que ce ventre que j’ai, n’est rien à cacher, mais au contraire une fierté et un symbol de la force qu’il m’a pris de surmonter mes insécurités et un petit rappel de les quatre belles personnes à qui j’ai donné vie.
Et un gros merci à mon mari d’amour qui a fait ses débuts come pjotographe avec ces jolies photos !!! Je t’aime !!!
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Jupe, ELOQUII – ici
Veste, ELOQUII – d’autres couleurs disponibles ici
Chaussures, ASOS – ici
Pochette, Ted Baker – d’autres couleurs disponibles ici
I told you I wouldn’t leave you hanging! Here’s the translation:
I wore my first crop top in my entire adult life just a little over a year ago. It was an intimidating thought for me, I’m not going to lie…
I’ve had four children, one of whom was delivered by C-section. My stomach is covered in stretch marks, and it’s the part of my body that I’ve had the hardware accepting for as long as I can remember.
But I challenged myself that day, and I fell in love with my stomach including its flaws! I’ve never looked back, and crop tops now play a reoccurring role in my wardrobe!
One of my favourites is this delicate blush coloured crop top from ZELIE FOR SHE, that I wore for the first time with the matching tutu and a pleurer jacket, for a princess-meets-biker look. It has truly proven to be one of the most versatile pieces in my closet.
I’ve paired it with this great navy blue pencil midi and construction orange blazer from ELOQUII.
I’ve accessorized with my beautiful Ted Baker Moti clutch, and the most stunning shoes in my life right now – these totally gorge, seafoam green, block heel, bejewelled pumps from ASOS.
In the 90s, One bearing ones tummy was all the rage, never in a million years, would I have imagined that wearing a crop top would feel so empowering for me, but it truly does. Even when I’m not showing any skin, they make me feel flirty, rebellious, super sexy, and most of all, they allowed me to embrace a part of myself that I used to detest, and to show the world that my tummy is nothing to be ashamed about, but rather a symbol of the strength it has taken me to overcome my insecurities, and a reminder of the four beautiful people that I brought into this world!
A huge thank you to my amazing husband, who made his debut as a photographer with these fab shots!!! Love you!!!
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Crop top, ZELIE FOR SHE- similar
Skirt, ELOQUII – here
Blazer, ELOQUII – other colors available here
Clutch, Ted Baker – other colors available here
Shoes, ASOS – here
I’m a very friendly girl. I don’t throw shade. I’m a lover, not a fighter. I avoid confrontation like the plague. I respect even my adversaries, and I don’t seek revenge… But sometimes you need to show your haters how wrong they are.
What I mean to say is… Sometimes a b*tch just needs to get put in her place!!! Haha!
They need Screw that! SHE needs to know that she will never be better than me because she has an ugly soul, and while she’s talking karma, she’s the one who karma just came back to bite. 😘 (I almost never use Emojis in my posts, but girl, this one’s for you!)
So don’t hate me because I’m beautiful (yes YOU, I know you’re reading this). Love me, because you tried to be me and failed, and that must mean I’m pretty fantastic. 😋 (Oops, there I go again! Hahaaa!)
You need to love how hot I look in this fabulous midi dress from Zelie For She.
Love how crazy dope I look in my earrings from Cristy Ellen K!
Love how sexy I look in the the most absolutely amazing plus size anklets ever, from Ready to Stare! (No but seriously, I know you you’re a fat girl too, so you might wanna know… Just tryna help tho!)
So ladies, don’t ever let anyone try and bring you down!!! Show them how much better you are!!! Rise above it at brush it off… But never be afraid to remind them how ugly their souls truly are, for that is the only way to help them. Let God take care of the karma!
In Haitian Creole we say ‘Wap konn Jòj cherie’ – you’ll get what’s coming to you! Actually, you just did. 😉 (Last one, I promise! Haha!)
Capes are a super hot trend this fall, and it’s not hard to see why. They’re comfortable, easy to wear, and come on! They’re capes (!!!), pretty much the coolest articles of clothing any human being can own!!!
I picked up this fabulous geo print cape from Zelie For She over the summer, and I’ve been saving it for the perfect autumn weather like we had over the weekend here in Montreal!
Since it’s a cotton cape, it works equally well over a cami, in lieu of a blazer in warmer weather; but my favorite way to wear it is over a cozy, long sleeved top, like this alligator textured sweater, when it is slightly cooler out.
Paired with some light blue jeggings, black patent pumps for a touch of glam, a stunning, handcrafted African cuff bracelet by La Caverne De Djénéba, and a great pair of sunnies from Forever 21, my cape looked fab and caught the attention of everyone in sight!