It was one of those moments… In New York City, the hustle and bustle of folks rushing past, each with their own stories — their own places to be.
But in this instant, this was my place. I had nowhere to go, I was already there, and all I wanted was to bask in my moment.
It’s an interesting thing, walking through the streets of Manhattan in a bright pink tutu.
Mostly though, people just walked briskly past, giving a quick glance, and returning to their fixed-eyed, onward-bound stares as they continued to where they had to go.
But for me… Time stood still. The yellow cabs whizzed by, cars honked and pedestrians whirred about, each, undoubtedly with somewhere very important to be… It was all just a blur — a dazzling kaleidoscope of colours and light.
My playful and whimsical accessories, a bag that my mum picked up for me as a donation to The Humane Society of Canada, a gorgeous gold hoop necklace from Fashion To Figure, and my adorable alphabet bracelet from Ready To Stare, creating the perfect balance between fairy princess and Times Square funk…
I was a little awestricken and overcome with the untold stories around me… But amidst all that commotion, as the humid breeze blew through the tulle of my skirt, I knew that mine, was only beginning.
P.S. I’m basically fat Carrie Bradshaw now.
Skirt, The Tutu Experience – here (ask about the Flight of the Fat Girl cut [extra $])
Blouse, Addition Elle – here
Shoes, Jessica Simpson from Addition Elle – sold out, love these
Bracelet, Ready To Stare – here
Necklace, Fashion To Figure – here
To find out more info on pet adoption, spay and neutering, or how you can donate, visit your local Humane Society or check out their website!
Canada – www.humanesociety.com
USA – www.humanesociety.org
Has this ever happened to you…? You have an event to attend, you’ve picked out a killer ensemble, and then at the last minute, it looks like it might rain, so your whole outfit game gets thrown off and you’ve gotta come up with something cute, and fast!!!
That’s exactly what happened to me while I was in New York with my husband last weekend, on the day of The CurvyCon, because being drenched in a pink tutu in the middle of Manhattan just didn’t seem like a solid plan for attending an event like this day long convention for bloggers, fashion lovers, and curvy girls alike, created by thee Chastity Garner Valentine, of Garner Style!
I did, however have a fabulous back up plan, which honestly, ended up being one of my favourite, most effortless looks yet — and even though it didn’t actually end up raining, I regret nothing!!!
I paired a great pair of dark wash skinnies with one of my fave new tees, and a fab striped blazer from Penningtons. I love how chic these three pieces looked together — you could hardly even tell that I was completely frazzled about what to wear only moments before!
With the addition of the most adorable printed espadrille flatforms from ASOS, my new Tom Ford specs, some minimalist gold threader earrings from Forever 21, a gorgeous kelly green Kate Spade clutch, and la pièce de la résistance — this freakin’ amazeballs car ring from Ready to Stare, I walked through the revolving doors of my hotel feeling like I owned the city!
Once again, we hit the streets in style with my blogger boo, of Tall Tales by Ramona O, and we grabbed brunch and got in a little photo shoot!
And check out how handsome my photographer — errr… My hubby looked!!!
After that, we hailed a cab and headed off to The CurvyCon! It was awesome to bump dimpled elbows with some of our favourite fellow plus size bloggers, models, business women, celebs like my boo thang, Sabrina Servance of Lifetime’s Big Women Big Love, and the stunning Amber Riley, best known for her role as Mercedes Jones on Glee, as well as check out showcases from some awesome brands like Fashion To Figure, Rebdolls, and the breakout line Eleven60, which, can I just say — go on now, take my money!!!
The day was full of giggles, hugs and selfies! The hubs even snapped this awesome, super awful photo of Ramona and I once we got inside! Haha! I promise you, we are not as unhappy as we look, just feeling that NYC humidity! Hehee! I had to share! 😛
Be sure to check out Ramona’s post about our NYC takeover, here!
Jeans, Penningtons – here
T-shirt, Penningtons – here
Blazer, Penningtons – sold out (wahhh!)
Shoes, ASOS – sold out, but a whole bunch of similar styles here
Clutch, Kate Spade – similar
Car ring, Ready To Stare – several styles here
I’ve never had to worry about being accused of stealing because I lingered in a convenience store. I’ve never worried about finding an affordable place to live in the neighbourhood of my choosing, surrounded by folks who look like me. I’ve always been able to flag down a cab when I needed one, and I’ve never had to think twice about walking down the street with a hoodie on.
I’m white — and if anyone here thinks that this has nothing to do with that, then please, carefully take note and be open to feeling uncomfortable in your whiteness (should that be the case), or kindly excuse yourselves from this space.
Everyday I look through my newsfeed and I’m appalled. I’m appalled not only by the heinous, racially driven crimes being committed by civilians, but by those whose purpose it is to serve and protect. I’m also appalled by my fellow Caucasians’ shameful ignorance when denying their white privilege — taking offence when someone states that black lives matter, as if somehow this means that theirs don’t.
I have black friends. We’ve all heard that line — but I do, really, and it never made me think that deeply about racism. In fact, even having a black husband didn’t really open my eyes like one might imagine it would. I’m telling you this even though it makes me feel ashamed and embarrassed by my own personal ignorance.
I only realized it in the past few years — how easy my life had been. Sure, growing up fat came with its own set of difficulties, and I’ve felt sorry for myself on many occasions, but it’s nothing compared to the hurdles faced by those who are growing up black.
My epiphany came when I had my youngest son. See, I have four children, two of whom are white, two of whom are mixed. My 12 year-old daughter is 1/4 black, and although she is incredibly proud of her heritage, and does not hesitate to proclaim her blackness — with her pale skin, dirty blonde, wavy hair, and light blue eyes, she is not visibly black. My four-year-old son, however, is.
Before him, I never had any fears sending my white children off to their white school, in our white neighbourhood. I never had to go shop in that tiny, dusty “black products” section of Walmart to find something to untangle their natural hair. I never had to worry that, because of their skin colour, someone might try and hurt one of my babies.
I am speaking from underneath the veil of white privilege, this is without question, and my experiences will never be the same as those of a black mother, but I am terrified to even imagine the ache of seeing my child face discrimination, struggle to overcome prejudice, or the heartbreak I would feel to lose him because he was walking home from the store, while black.
Recently, I discussed exactly this, with good friend, and blogging beauty, Ramona, of Tall Tales by Ramona O. In fact, we talked about a whole lot of things concerning white privilege, racism, and unity. We decided that since we’d be meeting up in New York City last weekend, that we’d use our time there to put together a collab – something meaningful, about more than just fashion and plus size style.
As I rolled into New York, I turned on the news in my hotel room only to hear of the horrible Charleston Massacre the day before. It was a huge reminder of all my discussions with Ramona, and of how much we need change.
As a woman who was born with, as the brilliant activist and writer, Pia Schiavo-Campo states in her article for Ravishly, “the kind of unearned privilege that keeps you from being harassed or gunned down by police officers” — my role in fighting racism is important, and regardless of your skin tone, so is yours!!!
Show how you believe that Black Lives Matter! Silence is consent, so be vocal, get in people’s faces, and don’t stand for any racism, no matter how “innocent” it may seem. Get educated on black culture and racism if you’re not, and educate others if you are.
Be aware of your own attitudes, and if you’re white, don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone to show your support for unity — because I am willing to bet… there is no comfort zone for black Americans who are watching their brothers, sisters, sons & daughters, families, friends, and community members being racially profiled, discriminated against, beaten and shot down because they are “the wrong colour.”
And here are some great pieces to help you learn more on white privilege and racism:
5 Ways to Unpack White Privilege: The Tess Holliday Incident by Pia Schiavo-Campo
And you can also check out all of Pia’s blogging amazingness on MixedFatChick.com.
Mesh crop top, Penningtons – here
Lace bralette (under), Addition Elle – here
Skirt, Forever 21+ – old, similar
Shoes, Jessica Simpson from Addition Elle – old, love these
Well… I couldn’t help myself. I went on a nail polish binge this afternoon. It’s been known to happen from time to time. They were all either really cheap or on sale (woohoo!) so I went a little crazy…
I have a few of the pricier nail polishes (and by pricey, I mean the 8, 9 and $10 ones) and they are great, but I’m finding lately that more often than not, it’s not worth forking out the extra cash, as the cheaper nail polishes are often just as good as the more costly ones.
First up is Sally Hansen Insta-Dri in 205 Pink Blink. I’ve been looking for a nice baby pink for a while now, but always ended up going for something less ordinary. So seeing as it was on sale for just under $4, I went for it! Yay!
Next is another Sally Hansen Insta-Dri polish in 350 Wined Up (good name, no?). It’s a shimmery shade and it’ll work well with this new vamp lipstick that I picked up a while back and am still not sure if I look good in or not. Ha.
Moving on, here is one that I am really looking forward to trying! It’s an NYC In a New York Minute Quick Dry polish in 270 Sidewalkers. It’s such a cool color!!! I mean, grey nail polish? Whaaa? SO EXCITED! And at around $2 – you just can’t go wrong. Plus, I can’t wait to test it out with the next item on my list; an NYC 274 Matte Me Crazy mattifying (is that even a word?) top coat.
Last but not least, a Maybelline Color Show polish in 305 Gilded Rose. It’s got tiny light gold sparkles as well as slightly larger rose gold colored ones. Very exciting indeed!
Be sure to keep an eye out for them in my upcoming posts!