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Lose Hate, Not Weight

So, I was called fat and ugly in front of my kids today by a woman who didn’t like hearing the truth.

While I was in a parking lot, driving away from the store, I witnessed a man in his car, cut off another car (this woman’s) as he left his parking spot. The woman stopped, rolled down her window and screamed at the man, who had a thick accent, calling him a son if a b*tch, and telling him to go back to his f*cking country.

As the man drove off, I looked at the woman like “really!?”

IMG_3534-1.JPGShe then pulled up next to my car with a grin, as if I were about to take her side… But I wasn’t. I told her what she said was wrong. Yes, he should have signalled, but I was disgusted by the words she chose to say to this man, who honestly, just made a mistake. See, my husband is a Haitian immigrant, and I would lose my sh*t if anyone ever spoke that way to him!!!

As she tried to defend herself, I rolled up my window, not having any of it. My son continued to look at her, so she drove around to the other side of the car, got out, and attempted to open his door! Like, really!? Luckily, I had locked them.

Frustrated that she couldn’t do whatever it was that she wanted to do to him, she began to scream at me through our closed windows “go on a diet (accompanied by gestures) you fat b*tch, you’re fat and ugly!!!” I just looked her straight in the eye, grinned, and she got back in her car and drove off unsatisfied by my lack of reaction.

All this, in front of my children. I’m so disgusted that she would be so low, but I am not insulted. She, and people like her, just continue to motivate me and fuel my mission. Her ignorance and lack of respect only make me realize how important what I’m doing truly is!!!

I am fat! Nobody can use that to insult me! And although I wish it hadn’t happened, I’m still glad my children got to see how strong I am and how her words of hate did not shake me.

IMG_3521.JPGJust figured I’d share, in case any of you ever need a bit of strength when facing a bully; and I’ll also take this opportunity to thank you all once again for being a part of my journey – you have no idea how much you keep me inspired!!!

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Haters Gonna Hate

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We’ve all got at least one, right, ladies? Haters. In life, there will always be those people who just can’t handle your success, your desirability and your confidence; and there’s only one thing we can really say to them:

YOU’RE JUST JEALOUS

And that’s what it all boils down to – jealousy. They want what you’ve got and hate you for having it. But here’s a little reminder; and I am quoting myself on this one… Be kind to your haters, ladies!!! They’re just feeling threatened, and I can only imagine why! A sexy, confident woman can be a very scary thing to a person who is feeling inferior. The best thing you can do is to help them learn to love themselves. Their fear only exists because they think they aren’t as beautiful, as important, or worthy as you are, of being loved.

So, today, in honor of my haters, (they know who they are, even if I don’t) I am rocking this awesomely honest, graphic tee from Forever 21+, super comfy, black cotton leggings from Addition Elle, and┬áthese fab clear boots from boohoo.com┬áthat I’ve been unhealthily obsessing over for a while now.

And in parting, I will leave you with these final words of wisdom:

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