Winter hasn’t been quite what it usually is this year… For starters it has rained for the past few days, leaving us with a green Christmas (or at least a green one, spotted with patches of dirty white).
It’s also been quite mild, with temperatures well into the positives, and I must admit, it’s causing a very springy vibe.
As a matter of fact, it has felt so much like spring here, that yesterday I was channeling a total springtime fairy vibe… And I’m not gonna lie, I dig it!
I pranced through the patches if exposed grass, wondering if any early crocus buds would be poking up through the still frozen ground, and I smelled that unmistakeable smell of spring rain (pretty much a combination of mud & dog poop – I don’t know why they name fabric softener and scented candles after it).
I wore the absolute most comfortable pants in the universe (I’m not even joking right now). These amazing brown harems from Your Big Sister’s Closet are everything, and I felt like I was floating.
I paired them with a cute, short sleeved, cropped sweatshirt that I’ve had kicking around for ages, sparkly gold flats, a pretty flower ring, and get this – a headpiece. Only… It wasn’t meant to be one.
It’s actually a bib necklace which just so happens to (especially when paired with the perfect pair of flowy harem pants) double flawlessly as a spring goddess headdress, because who’s gonna stop me!?
For those of you who don’t know what these are, they are the terms that people type into their search engines which lead them to clicking on my blog, and you can believe me when I say that many if these terms are downright hilarious! I’ve seen search terms going from “fat nude white girl” all the way to “big black sexy naked beauty.”
Yup. Nudity is almost always in there somewhere; but the second most common search terms I see go something along the lines of “how to wear plus size harem pants.”
I gather, from how often these search terms come up, that harem pants continue to be a coveted, yet intimidating style among the full figured community, and I totally understand. I was, at one time very much nervous about wearing them too.
See, and I know I’ve discussed this with you many times before, I have a serious case of the bum-tum (tummy that looks like a second butt in the front), and harem pants have proven to be a huge struggle to pull off (not literally off, that part is easy).
I wrote another post a while back (here) about with a tip on wearing a peplum top, or belt to help disguise your tummy. I still love this idea, but I’ve come up with another.
As you can see, I’ve paired the same harem pants (Forever 21+) from my other post, with this absolutely delicious blue, vintage style tee from Addition Elle; and instead of tucking it in and putting my belly on display, I’ve left it untucked, except for a small bit of it on one side. This way, you have nearly full tummy coverage while still showing off the signature high waist and pockets of the pants at the same time. It’s the best of both worlds!
Pair the ensemble with colourful flats and a bright handbag for a casual, chic, put together look that incorporates the on trend look of harem pants with the comfort of knowing you’re tummy is hidden.
I don’t know about you, and I know everyone is shaped differently; but depending on what I wear, I have, what I like to call “bumtum”. Bumtum, you ask?
Definition of Bumtum: noun \ˈbəmˈtəm\
When your tummy takes on the appearance of a bum when wearing clothes (usually pants) with a seam up the front, thus giving the impression that you not only have butt in the back, but one in the front, too.
So, now that that’s cleared up, lets talk about harem pants. They are everywhere, and have been trending for a while now. But I’ve been hesitating, and if you’re anything like me, you’ll understand, they can be a bit tricky, because not only are they high-waisted, they also have saggy fronts which can only accentuate your bumtum! That being said, don’t give up hope!!! With a little help from shapewear (which I briefly discussed my love/hate relationship with, in my recent post, “Fat Girl Problems“) and the right top or belt, it is possible to make them work!
When I saw these leopard print harem pants from Forever21+ I knew they would be a challenge, but I just wanted to try so badly!!! I quickly realized that they would be more difficult to wear than I had thought… My Spanx alone just weren’t cutting it. I had to break out the big guns and wear my faux leather peplum belt from Addition Elle, which I had nabbed about a year ago, but never really found the right way to wear. I had tried a couple of looks with it, but they just always looked off, somehow. Anyway, I figured it was worth a shot, so I went for it, and I think it was exactly what these pants needed! Since they have a very bold cut and pattern, and the belt is also quite a statement on it’s own, I went with a very simple black top, and black & gold flats to draw some of the attention away from my mostly disguised bumtum. I can’t say that I was able to hide it completely, but I definitely felt confident with the end result; and, who am I trying to fool, anyhow? It’s not like having a flatter tummy would trick anyone into thinking I’m skinny! Haha!
So my advice to you is, if you are a fellow bumtum sufferer, and are looking to try and get in on the harem pant trend: Always wear shapewear underneath, and try to find a great peplum belt, like this one, or a cute peplum top, which you can belt or wear on its own. The reality is, with just about every look, even if you think it won’t flatter your body, it never hurts to try, because you may actually be surprised with what you can do to make it work for you!