I remember when I first really noticed a woman in a maxi dress. It was sometime during the mid 2000s, and she had “the perfect body” (or at least the body I hadn’t realized yet, wasn’t the only kind anyone thought was beautiful). I’m sure I had seen others before her, sashaying about in ankle-length dresses, but this girl just caught my attention. In my still unaccepting-of-my-own-body mind, she was everything I wished I could be. Slim, large-breasted, beautiful, and she seemed to almost float along in that long, flowy dress like nothing else mattered but her and the breeze that lifted her hem every now and again, to reveal her ultra chic gladiator sandals, and perfect pedicure…
She was noticeable, right down to her bohemian, beaded necklace, and bangles that slid all the way up her slender arms, to her elbows when she lifted her hand to brush the hair from her face.
I realize now, all these years later, that what I was so captivated by wasn’t this girl’s seemingly perfect silhouette, but rather, her confidence.
I never would have guessed then, that I could feel as good as she looked in that dress… I never could have imagined that her intoxicating vibe was something that I could have for my very own… But now I see it. Now, finally after all these years, I love my body, and when I step out the door in a gorgeous maxi dress, I know I look just as striking as she did. I know I walk with the same ease and carelessness as I remember her doing so well… And I know others see it too.
See, it’s not about having the perfect body. It’s not about having slim arms, or large breasts. None of those things will ever give you the intangible quality that I couldn’t quite pin down, until I experienced what self-love truly was for myself.
That woman felt beautiful, and that’s what drew me to her. I feel beautiful, and that’s what was shining through when I wore this stunning maxi from SexyPlus Clothing.
Once I stepped into it, I didn’t want to take it off, so I decided to take my look from day to night!
For daytime, I paired it with pretty, embellished sandals, sunnies, a straw hat, gold bangles (of course) and my Lilly Pulitzer for Target straw bag (my only score from the great Lilly for Target fiasco/triumph).
And for my evening look, I switched out my sandals, hat, and beach bag for a cute pair of cork wedges, a vintage clutch, a great necklace, and a fab black tuxedo style bolero from SexyPlus, and headed off for a date night with my hubby!
Maxi dresses are super versatile, and really transition well from day to evening. This particular one is so fun, because it combines animal print and paisley, for a really fun combination of wild and classic.
Just a little note, I actually sized down in this dress, as it is made very generously, but I would recommend ordering your usual size if you’re particularly boobalicious (which I’m not). I have very big hips, and as you can see, even when sizing down, the cut is roomy.
So, while I must admit, I still yearn for a set of bangles that can actually slide all the way up to my elbows (seriously, where can I get some of those?)… I feel pretty f*cking fabulous in this dress!!!
I can say with a huge degree of certainty, that if I had known then, back when I first saw that woman looking effortlessly cool in her maxi, that the greatest detail of her outfit was her confidence, my life would have gone a lot differently… But the important thing is that one fine day, I did learn her secret. I did start to love myself, and now, I can rock a maxi like nobodies business, and it feels glorious!!!
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This week, I had the most delightful meet up with a fellow plus size blogger buddy of mine, the beautiful Crystal Coons of Sometimes Glam – thee blog for curvy fashion enthusiasts, and DIY, jewel adorned shoe lovers everywhere!!!
Crystal was back here, in her hometown of Montreal, visiting all the way from Phoenix, and had the amazing idea to meet up for a photo shoot; but this was no ordinary photo shoot!
She came up with the idea and the theme of this post: to go out shopping and dress each other up! How fun is that!? No, but seriously though!?
And since we have such different styles, her being a self proclaimed princess, and me having a bit more of an edge, it was really cool to both get dressed up and style one another in each other’s own signature looks!!!
We share a love, Mme. Coons and I, a love for Addition Elle… Haha! So our destination wasn’t hard to decide on! A quick shot of our OsOTD (apparently I’m HILARIOUS) and it was on like Donkey Kong!
I wanted to get my Sometimes Glam(orous) gal pal into something a little more street than what she’s used to!
So I went with these amazing Lot18 patchwork boyfriend jeans with plaid detail (I need these is my life, BTW), a funky, sequin embellished top, and the absolute coolest varsity bomber!
Not only did she rock the hell out of the look, but she landed that jump with a lot more grace than I could have… (Hashtag FatGirlProblems… *sigh*).
Next, up, Crystal’s picks for me! I’m loving the look she chose for me! It so perfectly reflected her style. Preppy and sweet, with a great mix if textures, and just a hint of edginess to work perfectly with my gold chain!!!
It was a blast collaborating with a fellow blogger, and to share ideas as well as lots of giggles! I can’t wait till the next time Crystal is in town so we can get together to work on another shoot again! Thank you so much to her lovely sister for being our photographer and, to the fabulous staff at Addition Elle Fairview Pointe-Claire for letting us play!
Deets on Crystal’s own OOTD (That fabulous cape!!!) available on her blog!
Now, this is a story all about how
My life got flipped, turned upside down
And I’d like to take a minute just sit right there
I’ll tell you how I became the prince of a town called Bel Air
All my fellow 90s kids don’t need to hear more than a word or two to know that this the beginning of the instantly recognizable theme song from The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air!!!
This had to be my favourite show growing up; it was funny, there was always a good message, and Will. Smith. Was. HOT!!! (Uhh, still is actually.)
Naturally, since we’re seeing a serious revival of all things 90s, this show has a whole new following. This comes as no surprise to me – it has an appeal that will endure the test of time; but still, how freaking cool is it that my son watches it on Netflix!?!? (Cue the super excited mom, who just heard the theme song to her childhood playing on her son’s phone and now can’t stop talking to him about how awesome it was back in the day… Cue several eye rolls from said son as well.)
You can only imagine my delight when I came across this Fresh Prince crop top from Rebdolls!!! (Actually maybe you can’t… I was embarrassingly excited.)
Since I love mixing styles, I’ve paired it with this showstopping yellow midi skirt from ELOQUII, a fabulous statement necklace from Revolucion Jewelry, my vintage Burberry trench, (thanks Papa) and cute blue flats for a bold, flashy look that the Will would surely approve!
It was as if Mother Nature could feel my pain this morning, as I looked out the window, only to see that the rain was pouring down with reckless abandon.
I had my outfit of the day all picked out since last night. Talk about disappointment. I’ve been waiting to rock an all white look, and wear this stunning cotton maxi skirt and matching crop top from JIBRI for so long, and as I looked through the window, I quickly realized the weather was not cooperating.
White cotton + Rain = Bad news.
But like I mentioned before, Mother Nature must be a fashionista herself, and know the anguish of having to put off wearing a fabulous outfit due to rain; because just as I had given up all hope on wearing these beautiful pieces today, the sun came out to play!!!
As I posed for photos, I felt like a goddess, draped in luxurious flowing cotton, blowing breeze. I felt natural and peaceful, and everything about was just right.
I haven’t fallen so in love with an outfit in a while, and I’m just going to come out and say it – I’m sorry for the pic overload, but I had a difficult time choosing between shots!!! I literally looked good in every picture… Like, whaaaaa!?!? That never happens! Why can’t it always be this easy to look gorgeous? Ha.
No, but seriously, when you’re wearing quality garments that drape beautifully and hang well, like this set from JIBRI, it’s hard not to look like a million bucks!
This was my first purchase from them, and will most certainly not be my last!!! I can’t wait to add more of their finely crafted pieces to my collection!
I’d like to start this post with an apology for these particularly blurry pictures. My youngest son threw my iPhone into his potty and peed on it. Why? Because he is three years old and is trying to ruin my life. Ha. Don’t worry… I still love him.
In any event, I had promised a blog post to my Facebook fans, wearing this stunning Igigi maxi dress, so regardless of the fuzzy images – here it is!
All the dresses I’ve ever ordered from Igigi have been of excellent quality, and this one is no exception. It’s fully lined and drapes absolutely perfectly on my body. The fabric is light yet dense and the print is rich and indulgent. I’ve paired it with a simple black canvas cork wedge from Wal Mart, a black Babooshka Boutique turban, wrapped around my bun, an oversized gold chain, gold teardrop hoop earrings, and gold cuff bracelet from Forever 21, to create an elegant, seductive look that works for any occasion, from tea with the ladies, an outdoor wedding, to cruise wear!
Just a note, from my experience, Igigi’s maxi dresses run true to size, perhaps slightly larger, and tend to be quite long, so be ready to have your hem raised if you’re anywhere under 5’11”, or plan to wear flats.
An outfit is never complete without accessories, and I picked up a few beautiful, hand crafted pieces at local markets in Haiti, while I was there.
Haiti is filled with resourceful artisans who are capable of creating absolute jewels out of just about anything locally available. When setting foot into a Haitian marketplace you will find, among other things, accessories made of anything from discarded pieces of plastic, which are sculpted and polished into stunning rings and pendants, to wood, or even telephone wire, which is wrapped in string or ribbon to create beautiful bracelets.
These delicate shell necklaces and this gorgeous polished “kòn bèf” (bull horn) pendant were my finds, along with a gorgeous necklace and bracelet set made entirely out of hand strung seeds, which I will show off to you in a future post.
I’ve paired my natural, earthy bobbles with a basic black tank top and leggings from Addition Elle, a light peach colored, cap sleeve top from Forever 21+, which I’ve left open to flow in the breeze and graze my bountiful hips; and my trusty, nude, captoe flats from Payless, for a look of simple, casual perfection with an exotic touch – just right for adding a little Caribbean warmth to a damp, rainy Montreal afternoon.
So! It’s been a minute, and for all of those who’ve been wondering what this fat girl has been up to, well, here it is!
I was away, on a very unexpected trip back to Haiti, under some very sad circumstances. My father-in-law passed away suddenly in at the end of April so we rushed to plan an extremely last minute trip in order to take care of funeral arrangements, and all that not so fun stuff that comes along with losing a loved one.
Everything went pretty smoothly and we said our final goodbyes, which was really tough on my husband; but he handled it with grace. After all was said and done, we found ourselves in serious need of some rest and relaxation!
If you want to relax, there really isn’t any better place than Haiti. I’ve said it before, in my blog post “Haiti Cherie“, and I’ll say it again – Haiti is my second home and a piece of me will always be there, no matter where I am, regardless of the fact that the sun & my skin, the humidity & my hair, and the heat & my sweat glands (TMI?) are not the best of friends, as you can probably tell!
But It just feels like time moves slower there, like the stress and the pressure of life somehow just fade into the feeling of a carefree Friday night, every evening of the week. Music in the streets, tasty treats for sale right at your car window as you make your way through the crowded streets of Port-au-Prince, along with chilled sodas, sugar cane, artwork, and pretty much anything else your heart may desire. You name it, and a local will tell you on which street corner it can be found! From fresh, sun ripened mangoes, to djon djon, dried black mushrooms grown only in Haiti, used to make a deliciously fragrant dish of rice and beans, just ask around and a smiling stranger will gladly point you in the right direction!
We visited with family, friends, and more family again! There were so many little cuties! It was great to see how they’ve grown and to meet some of the newer additions to the fam!
After some shopping in local markets to pick up some souvenirs for our kids at home, we were off to the beach! Destination Club Indigo – a beautiful beach resort located in the coastal town of Montrouis, along the Côte des Arcadins, one of the longest stretches of stunning, white sand beaches in Haiti.
There, we watched the turquoise waves roll, while we ate freshly caught lanbi (conch), a must if your visiting one of Haiti’s many gorgeous beaches. We sipped on ice cold Prestige beer, a locally brewed lager, Barbancourt rum, another must, and listened to the amazing sounds of a live twoubadou band playing in the distance.
Regardless of circumstances, Haiti has a rejuvenating quality about it. There, we were able to let our cares drift off with the tide, our worries fly away with the salty sea breeze, our stress get whisked away in the hustle and bustle of the city, our senses reignite with its delicious flavors, vibrant colors, and inviting sounds. We found our smiles again in Haiti, after saying goodbye to a man who meant so much to so many, and we came home, still with sadness in our hearts, but with new memories to cherish too.
This post is dedicated to my late father-in-law. Nap toujou renmen ‘w Boss Be!!!