Confident to the Maxi


I remember when I first really noticed a woman in a maxi dress. It was sometime during the mid 2000s, and she had “the perfect body” (or at least the body I hadn’t realized yet, wasn’t the only kind anyone thought was beautiful). I’m sure I had seen others before her, sashaying about in ankle-length dresses, but this girl just caught my attention. In my still unaccepting-of-my-own-body mind, she was everything I wished I could be. Slim, large-breasted, beautiful, and she seemed to almost float along in that long, flowy dress like nothing else mattered but her and the breeze that lifted her hem every now and again, to reveal her ultra chic gladiator sandals, and perfect pedicure… 

She was noticeable, right down to her bohemian, beaded necklace, and bangles that slid all the way up her slender arms, to her elbows when she lifted her hand to brush the hair from her face. 

I realize now, all these years later, that what I was so captivated by wasn’t this girl’s seemingly perfect silhouette, but rather, her confidence. 

I never would have guessed then, that I could feel as good as she looked in that dress… I never could have imagined that her intoxicating vibe was something that I could have for my very own… But now I see it. Now, finally after all these years, I love my body, and when I step out the door in a gorgeous maxi dress, I know I look just as striking as she did. I know I walk with the same ease and carelessness as I remember her doing so well… And I know others see it too. 

See, it’s not about having the perfect body. It’s not about having slim arms, or large breasts. None of those things will ever give you the intangible quality that I couldn’t quite pin down, until I experienced what self-love truly was for myself. 

That woman felt beautiful, and that’s what drew me to her. I feel beautiful, and that’s what was shining through when I wore this stunning maxi from SexyPlus Clothing.

Once I stepped into it, I didn’t want to take it off, so I decided to take my look from day to night! 

For daytime, I paired it with pretty, embellished sandals, sunnies, a straw hat, gold bangles (of course) and my Lilly Pulitzer for Target straw bag (my only score from the great Lilly for Target fiasco/triumph). 

     And for my evening look, I switched out my sandals, hat, and beach bag for a cute pair of cork wedges, a vintage clutch, a great necklace, and a fab black tuxedo style bolero from SexyPlus, and headed off for a date night with my hubby! 



Maxi dresses are super versatile, and really transition well from day to evening. This particular one is so fun, because it combines animal print and paisley, for a really fun combination of wild and classic. 

Just a little note, I actually sized down in this dress, as it is made very generously, but I would recommend ordering your usual size if you’re particularly boobalicious (which I’m not). I have very big hips, and as you can see, even when sizing down, the cut is roomy. 

So, while I must admit, I still yearn for a set of bangles that can actually slide all the way up to my elbows (seriously, where can I get some of those?)… I feel pretty f*cking fabulous in this dress!!!  

I can say with a huge degree of certainty, that if I had known then, back when I first saw that woman looking effortlessly cool in her maxi, that the greatest detail of her outfit was her confidence, my life would have gone a lot differently… But the important thing is that one fine day, I did learn her secret. I did start to love myself, and now, I can rock a maxi like nobodies business, and it feels glorious!!! 

Because you’re all so amazing, please use, code FREEFLIGHT to get free shipping from SexyPlus from now till May 25th 2015! Don’t miss out! This dress is still available in this print, as well as in a couple of others!!!

Dress, SexyPlus – here or other prints, here & here 

Tuxedo bolero, SexyPlus – here or similar, here 


  1. Andrea{TheUglyTruthMom}

    its funny, the way you describe that girl in the maxi dress, I’ve seen them too, and felt exactly that way, and to be honest, besides the bangles, I see the same thing when I look at you in your maxi dress, I guess I better work on my confidence. I would love to feel comfortable in a maxi dress.

  2. marjorie

    Link doesn’t work for me either, but FB let me choose to click through to the site. (I was amused to note that in one of the pics of one of the other maxis, you can see the binder clip in back pinning back the fabric for the perfect fit — ah, fashion trickery, whether straight or plus-size, needed to make even MODELS work the clothes better!)

    Anyway. You look gorgeous. And I totally hear you on confidence being the it-factor.

    • FlightOfTheFatGirl (Cynthia)

      So weird! It’s working for me, both via facebook and through my site directly. I’m not really all that techy, so I’m not sure why… 😐

      The clips, I’m assuming, are probably because this dress seems to be made on the generous side, and the model appears to be somewhat on an inbetweenie… Either that, or her size wasn’t available, maybe?

      Thank you so much!!! I can assure you, I wore it 100% clip free! 😉😉😉

  3. Stef

    Reblogged this on sassyplus and commented:
    Fabulous Cynthia of the blog Flight of the Fat Girl shares her truth about finding her confidence in this wonderful post featuring SexyPlus Clothing. Have a read and a follow xox

  4. Monika McKean

    I love maxis! Especially from Sexy Plus. And fyi, I found bangles at Penningtons once that DO slide right up!

  5. margotmeanie

    You look absolutely fabulous! I adore both looks and I adore a good maxi!

    Now I would also like to find those bangles that slide all the way up my arms!!


  6. abbiosbiston

    What a great description of how body-positive changes your whole outlook and appearance without actually changing your appearance. I have a nightmare with maxis as getting one to fit over my boobs and still work over the rest of my body is a challenge. Plus I am tall so they’re mostly a little shorter than I would like. I am still on the hunt for the perfect one… mostly because it means I can avoid shaving my legs. Hahaha!

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